Books and Tapes
Visit the parlor at St. Monica’s to find books and tapes on addiction that you may check out anonymously. You may check the book or tape out for as long as you need it. Click on the arrow to the left of the title for a description.
So far in the library are the following:
Chocolate to Morphine – Understanding Mind Active Drugs
A study of legal and illegal drugs–including stimulants, depressants, hallucinogens, medical drugs, and other drugs–discusses the diverse effects of each substance, side effects, safety, and alternatives
Forgive & Forget – Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve
For all of us who have been wounded by another and struggled to understand and move beyond our feelings of hurt and anger, Lewis Smedes’s classic book on forgiveness shows that it is possible to heal our pain and find room in our hearts to forgive. Breaking down the process of healing into four stages and offering stories of real people’s experience throughout, this wise book provides hope and solace for all who long for the peace that comes with forgiveness
The Betrayal Bond
Exploitive relationships can create trauma bonds–chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them. Divorce, employee relations, litigation of any type, incest and child abuse, family and marital systems, domestic violence, hostage negotiations, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. All these relationships share one thing: they are situations of incredible intensity or importance where there is an exploitation of trust or power.
In The Betrayal Bond Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships.
In The Betrayal Bond Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships.
Feeling & Healing Your Emotions
Feeling and healing Your Emotions offers guidelines for emotional and spiritual wholeness. In simple question-and-answer format, readers learn that all emotions are positive aspects of our nature and that a fully developed emotional life can strengthen one’s spiritual life.
Leaving the Enchanted Forest – The Path From Relationship Addiction to Intimacy
Advice and step-by-step guidelines for those seeking to recover from addictive relationships.
Creating Love – The Next Stage of Growth
John Bradshaw’s bestselling books and compelling PBS series have touched and changed millions of lives. Now, in Creating Love, he offers us a new way to understand our most crucial relationships—with our romantic partners and spouses, with our parents and children, with friends and co-workers, with ourselves, and with God.
Bradshaw’s compassionate approach shows that many of us have been literally “entranced” by past experiences of counterfeit love, so we unknowingly re-create patterns that can never fulfill us. Here he provides both the insights and the precise tools we need to keep those destructive patterns from repeating in the present. And then he shows how we can open ourselves to the soul-building work of real love—and create healthy, loving relationships where we can be fully ourselves in every part of our lives.
Bradshaw’s compassionate approach shows that many of us have been literally “entranced” by past experiences of counterfeit love, so we unknowingly re-create patterns that can never fulfill us. Here he provides both the insights and the precise tools we need to keep those destructive patterns from repeating in the present. And then he shows how we can open ourselves to the soul-building work of real love—and create healthy, loving relationships where we can be fully ourselves in every part of our lives.
Homecoming Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child
Are you outwardly successful but inwardly do you feel like a big kid? Do you aspire to be a loving parent but all too often “lose it” in hurtful ways? Do you crave intimacy but sometimes wonder if it’s worth the struggle? Or are you plagued by constant vague feelings of anxiety or depression?
If any of this sounds familiar, you may be experiencing the hidden but damaging effects of a painful childhood—carrying within you a “wounded inner child” that is crying out for attention and healing.
In this powerful book, John Bradshaw shows how we can learn to nurture that inner child, in essence offering ourselves the good parenting we needed and longed for. Through a step-by-step process of exploring the unfinished business of each developmental stage, we can break away from destructive family rules and roles and free ourselves to live responsibly in the present. Then, says Bradshaw, the healed inner child becomes a source of vitality, enabling us to find new joy and energy in living.
Homecoming includes a wealth of unique case histories and interactive techniques, including questionnaires, letter-writing to the inner child, guided meditations, and affirmations. Pioneering when introduced, these classic therapies are now being validated by new discoveries in attachment research and neuroscience. No one has ever brought them to a popular audience more effectively and inspiringly than John Bradshaw.
Bradshaw On The Family
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John Bradshaw Family Secrets – What You Don’t Know Can Hurt You
This work examines the family’s mysterious power to affect our lives. The book explains how secrets are created, how they influence us, and the risks and benefits of exploring them. With the aid of a genogram, the book provides us with a step-by-step guide to uncovering the secrets of the past and present. There are many case studies which illustrate how we can recognize crucial gaps and silences, reconstruct missing information and decipher partial memories. The book provides advice on how to deal with the truths revealed and shows us ways to stay safely and honestly connected with our families.
Facing Shame – Families In Recovery
Families that return for treatment time and again often have problems that seem unrelated—such as compulsive, addictive, or abusive behaviors—but that are linked by an underlying process of shame. Comparing the shame-bound family system with the respectful family system, Fossum and Mason outline the assumptions underlying their depth approach to family therapy and take the reader step by step through the stages of therapy. Case examples are used to illustrate the process
Healing The Shame That Binds You
This classic book, written 17 years ago but still selling more than 13,000 copies every year, has been completely updated and expanded by the author.
“I used to drink,” writes John Bradshaw,”to solve the problems caused by drinking. The more I drank to relieve my shame-based loneliness and hurt, the more I felt ashamed.”
Shame is the motivator behind our toxic behaviors: the compulsion, co-dependency, addiction and drive to superachieve that breaks down the family and destroys personal lives. This book has helped millions identify their personal shame, understand the underlying reasons for it, address these root causes and release themselves from the shame that binds them to their past failures.
Parenting for Prevention – How To Raise A Child To Say No To Alcohol & Drugs
Here’s a book that every adult concerned about kids will want to read. The author convincingly argues that parents are the ones who not only can but also must take the lead in preventing their kids from getting mixed up with alcohol and other drugs. Parenting for Prevention shows them exactly what to do and how to do it.
The theme is prevention, but the approach is thoroughly positive. You’ll find no threats or warnings here, no long list of don’ts. Instead, this book says, in effect: If you really want to prevent your kids from getting involved with alcohol or other drugs, here’s the way to do it. Teach them these life skills.
The theme is prevention, but the approach is thoroughly positive. You’ll find no threats or warnings here, no long list of don’ts. Instead, this book says, in effect: If you really want to prevent your kids from getting involved with alcohol or other drugs, here’s the way to do it. Teach them these life skills.
A Guide To The Big Books Design For Living With Others
James and Joanne Hubal present information to reinforce important points in A Program for You and include exercises for self-examination and disclosure. Clear discussions of each Step and probing questions offer us a guide to personal insight and reflection.
The Cycle Of Addiction
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Choices & Consequences – What You Do When A Teenager Uses Alcohol/Drugs
Alcohol and other drug use among teenagers is epidemic.
Children as young as grade-school age are experimenting with mood-altering substances.
One out of every four high school students drink to excess when they drink.
Many teenagers are abusing alcohol and other drugs–and many will die prematurely if they don’t get help.
Choices & Consequences tells you precisely how you can help. Written for parents, teachers, family doctors, mental health professionals, school guidance counselors, social workers, juvenile justice workers, clergy, and anyone else who cares about teenagers, it describes a step-by-step process called intervention that you can use to stop a teenager’s harmful involvement with chemicals. If you’re worried about kids and alcohol or other drugs, you can do something. And you can start today.
Children as young as grade-school age are experimenting with mood-altering substances.
One out of every four high school students drink to excess when they drink.
Many teenagers are abusing alcohol and other drugs–and many will die prematurely if they don’t get help.
Choices & Consequences tells you precisely how you can help. Written for parents, teachers, family doctors, mental health professionals, school guidance counselors, social workers, juvenile justice workers, clergy, and anyone else who cares about teenagers, it describes a step-by-step process called intervention that you can use to stop a teenager’s harmful involvement with chemicals. If you’re worried about kids and alcohol or other drugs, you can do something. And you can start today.
Under the Influence – A Guide To The Myths & Realities of Alcoholism
Ten of millions Americans suffer from alcoholism, yet most people still wrongly believe that alcoholism is a psychological or moral problem, and that it can be cured by psychotherapy or sheer will power. Based on groundbreaking scientific research, Under The Influence examine the physical factors that set alcoholics and non-alcoholics apart, and suggests a bold, stigma-free way of understanding and treating the alcoholic
Adult Children Of Fairly Functional Parents
Join Becky and Ruthie for a hilarious look at the roots, shoots and fruits of their own family tree! This mother/daugher writing team climbs fearlessly into the family tree, then bounces around on the limbs to see what shakes loose! The result is the story of a family filled with love and laughter, yet one with its share of challenges and disappointments–and memorable characters.
Mee the Rare Bird, Becky’s Dad (Ruthie’s husband), who’s so perfect he makes life miserable for Becky’s husband, Scott. The Jaybird, little 18-month-old Rachel, who disappears one day without wearing even feathers. Uncle Genie, who insists he can blow feathers into a pillow with a vacuum cleaner. The Matriarch, great-grandma Peterson, at 94 the sage and spiritual leader of the whole flock. And all the rest in the nest!
Written with a rare and wonderful combination of wit, keen insight, and a gift for finding fun in even the smallest detail, this book overflows with the joy God brings to families who follow Him.
It Will Never Happen To Me
First published 20 years ago, It Will Never Happen to Me is the definitive book/workbook for adult children of alcoholics.
With her reassuring and informative approach, Claudia Black expertly identifies common issues faced by children who grew up in alcoholic families–shame, neglect, unreasonable role expectations, and physical abuse. Using narratives and profiles, she describes survival techniques characteristic of children raised in alcoholic families, including the unspoken laws of don’t talk, don’t trust, and don’t feel. First explaining how such learned responses cause difficulties in adulthood, Black carefully guides readers in identifying self-defeating, destructive behaviors and finding a healthier, happier way to live.
With her reassuring and informative approach, Claudia Black expertly identifies common issues faced by children who grew up in alcoholic families–shame, neglect, unreasonable role expectations, and physical abuse. Using narratives and profiles, she describes survival techniques characteristic of children raised in alcoholic families, including the unspoken laws of don’t talk, don’t trust, and don’t feel. First explaining how such learned responses cause difficulties in adulthood, Black carefully guides readers in identifying self-defeating, destructive behaviors and finding a healthier, happier way to live.
SOS Help For Parents
SOS Help For Parents improves the behavior and emotional adjustment of children, ages two to twelve. Used internationally by parents, educators, and counselors, this parenting book is translated into 10 languages and was updated in 2008. You learn the best methods for improving your child s behavior and for reducing stress in your life. You learn essential child rearing rules, how to avoid four common child rearing errors, primary methods for increasing good behavior, major methods for stopping bad behavior, active ignoring, Grandmas Rule, how to avoid nine common time-out mistakes, time-out for toys that misbehave, how to handle children who rebel against time-out, using points and contracts, logical consequences, natural consequences, behavior penalty, and helping your child express feelings, Additional behaviors dealt with include noncompliance, not minding, strong-willed behavior, oppositional and defiant behavior, aggression, ADHD, dressing problems, sibling conflict, tantrums, attention seeking, immature behavior, avoidance of chores, homework resistance, communication problems, and managing bad behavior away from home. Also, you will learn how to partner with your child s teacher to improve school adjustment. Your relationship with your child will improve. The Menu of Solutions for 46 Problem Behaviors guides you in selecting the best methods for handling the most challenging behaviors
Guide for Handling Common Everyday Problems
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Children Of Alcoholics – A Guidebook for Educators, Therapists and Parents
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Grandchildren of Alcoholics Another Generation of Co-Dependency
This book provides insight on how alcoholism affects families down the road and shows what to look for. It can’t cure you, but it provides some strategies for handling situations and new ways of thinking that will liberate you or your loved one from a life of victimization
Adult Children – The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families
It is estimated that as many as 34 million people grew up in alcoholic homes. But what about the rest of us? What about families that had no alcoholism, but did have perfectionism, workaholism, compulsive overeating, intimacy problems, depression, problems in expressing feelings, plus all the other personality traits that can produce a family system much like an alcoholic one?
Countless millions of us struggle with these kinds of dysfunctions every day, and until very recently we struggled alone. Pulling together both theory and clinical practice, John and Linda Friel provide a readable explanation of what happened to us and how we can rectify it.
Same House Different Homes – Why Adult Children of Alcoholics Are Not All The Same
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Self-Discovery In Recovery
By Abraham J. Twerski. This is a Hazelden Recovery Book.
Guide to Recovery – A Book for Adult Children of Alcoholics
Rich with insight and awareness, Recovery explores the secrets, fears, hopes and issues that confront adult children of alcoholics. Authors and widely respected therapists and ACOA workshop leaders Herbert Gravitz and Julie Bowden detail in a clear question-and-answer format the challenges of control and inadequacy that ACOAs face as they struggle for recovery and understanding, stage-by-stage: Survival
Broken Toys Broken Dreams – Understanding & Healing Codependency, Compulsive Behaviors & Family
Broken Toys Broken Dreams provides a clear and refreshing look into the dynamics of compulsive behavior and codependency. It addresses the key issues all of us struggle with in our families, relationships and culture.
A Womans Way Through The Twelve Steps
This illuminating view of how women understand and process the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous explores such essential topics as spirituality, powerlessness, and the emergence of a woman’s sense of feminine soul. A Woman’s Way Through the Twelve Steps remains true to the underlying spiritual truths of the Twelve Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous while triumphantly overcoming the traditional male orientation of Alcoholics Anonymous. For every woman who has felt there are issues crucial to her recovery that just can’t be brought up in a mixed-gender meeting, this book sheds encouraging feminine light on the wisdom of A.A.
Serenity – A Companion For Twelve Step Recovery
But serenity is available to everyone, promises Karen Casey in her newest book, fittingly titled, Serenity. The best-selling author helps readers unlock the secret to finding serenity in the midst of everyday annoyances and serious life challenges. Through inspirational passages gleaned from A Life of My Own, Casey gently reminds readers to detach from worries based on matters beyond their control–worries that fuel resentment and bitterness. Serenity is possible, she assures, by accepting the things one cannot change and turning problems and worries over to a Higher Power. Colorful pages and fine print quality make Serenity a wonderful gift book.
Codependent No More
Is someone else’s problem your problem? If, like so many others, you’ve lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else’s, you may be codependent–and you may find yourself in this book.
The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America’s best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life.
With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency–charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.
The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America’s best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life.
With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency–charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.
Co-Dependence Misunderstood – Mistreated
The explosive bestseller that revolutionized our understanding of the addictive process. With a new introduction addressing the backlash to the co-dependency movement.
Spirituality And Recovery – Walking on Water
By Father Leo Booth
Each Day A New Beginning – Daily Meditations for Women
Find inspiration and guidance for dealing with the challenges and new experiences of recovery in the writings from a woman who cares about others. This beloved author writes about self-esteem, friendships with other women, hope, attitudes about life and relationships, and more. Her words help bridge the gap between self and Higher Power, between loneliness and sharing the emotions of recovery.
Days of Healing – Days of Joy – Daily Meditations for Adult Children
From the winter of our doubts and confusion and sadness we awaken to a spring of the self-stirring anew. In the days of healing and joy that lie ahead, let this book of daily meditations speak to you, instilling hope and confidence and courage. A year’s worth of quotations, meditations, and closing thoughts encourage the small but consistent efforts of those seeking to give voice to the often timid, unsure, and frightened child within.
Each day, find in these pages the strength and wisdom and support that light the way to serenity in any season of life.
Each day, find in these pages the strength and wisdom and support that light the way to serenity in any season of life.
Twenty-Four Hours A Day
Since 1954, Twenty-Four Hours a Day has become a stable force in the recovery of many alcoholics throughout the world. With over six and a half million copies in print (the original text has been revised), this “little black book” offers daily thoughts, meditations, and prayers for living a clean and sober life. A spiritual resource with practical applications to fit our daily lives.
Alcoholics Anonymous (2)
Alcoholics Anonymous (the Big Book) has served as a lifeline to millions worldwide. First published in 1939, Alcoholics Anonymous sets forth cornerstone concepts of recovery from alcoholism and tells the stories of men and women who have overcome the disease. With publication of the second edition in 1955, the third edition in 1976, and now the fourth edition in 2001, the essential recovery text has remained unchanged while personal stories have been added to reflect the growing and diverse fellowship. The long-awaited fourth edition features 24 new personal stories of recovery.
Lord I Want To Be Whole
When Stormie Omartian was a child, her mother would lock her in a closet and say, “You are worthless, and you’ll never amount to anything.” How did a young girl who grew up in an abusive home learn to overcome her past pain to find emotional wholeness as an adult? Lord, I Want to Be Whole offers seven steps that helped Stormie overcome clinical depression and live a more fulfilling life. She shows readers how prayer and the encouragement of Scripture can help them come to terms with their past. She also tells how to find deliverance from spiritual oppression and negative influences, learn to receive God’s gifts and believe the good things God says about us, become aware of deceptions and misconceptions, and maintain emotional health by taking care of our bodies and being sensitive to what is happening inside us. Lord, I Want to Be Who helps those who are troubled by depression find emotional wholeness and become all God made them to be
What Is Spirituality
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The 12 Step Prayer Book – A Collection of Favorite 12 Step Prayers; Inspirational Readings
A second edition (with 44 new prayers) of the best-selling book of prayers and inspirations for those seeking just the right words for conversing with their Higher Power or for expressing their innermost thoughts and feelings.
Words of wisdom and inspiration, gleaned from Twelve Step meetings and adapted from common prayers and devotional readings, fill the second edition of this popular prayer book. Featuring 44 new prayers, the updated and enhanced second edition offers a total of 183 inspirational passages to assist members of all Twelve Step fellowships in their prayer life and spiritual progress. Anyone who has had difficulty finding “the right words” to speak with his or her Higher Power will find abundant resources in this stirring collection.
Words of wisdom and inspiration, gleaned from Twelve Step meetings and adapted from common prayers and devotional readings, fill the second edition of this popular prayer book. Featuring 44 new prayers, the updated and enhanced second edition offers a total of 183 inspirational passages to assist members of all Twelve Step fellowships in their prayer life and spiritual progress. Anyone who has had difficulty finding “the right words” to speak with his or her Higher Power will find abundant resources in this stirring collection.
The Language of Letting Go
Melody Beattie integrates her own life experiences and fundamental recovery reflections in this unique daily meditation book written especially for those of us who struggle with the issue of codependency. Problems are made to be solved, Melody reminds us, and the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own pain and self-care. In this daily inspirational book, Melody provides us with a thought to guide us through the day and she encourages us to remember that each day is an opportunity for growth and renewal.
God Grant Me… - More Daily Mediations
Offering a reflection, prayer, and action for each day of the year, God Grant Me. . . serves as a steady spiritual companion for individuals making their way along the often-tumultuous recovery journey. Written by the authors of Keep It Simple, which has sold more than one million copies, God Grant Me. . .speaks clearly to both beginners and old-timers in recovery. Readers will draw inspiration and summon strength to handle recovery’s daily struggles such as learning to live with greater honesty, compassion, humor, gratitude, or awe. These are spiritual lessons to be learned over and over- made meaningful with the experience of each new day.
Keep It Simple – Daily Meditations for Twelve Step Beginnings & Renewel
Life can be complicated and hectic, but when we keep things simple, we can bring them down to a manageable size. These meditations focus on the Twelve Steps, stressing the importance of putting into practice new beliefs, slogans, and fellowship.
The 12 Step Prayer Book – More 12 Step Prayers & Inspirational Readings Volume II
Whether you are new to recovery or are an old-timer in one of the Twelve Step Fellowships, the prayers and inspirational reading in this collection will comfort, encourage, and guide you in your spiritual journey. Building on the overwhelming success and reception of the first volume, here are 183 more prayers and meditations that capture the core truths, challenges, and gifts of recovery.
In God’s Care – Daily Meditations on Spirituality In Recovery
The books in the Hazelden Meditation Series have guided millions as they search for the wisdom and understanding they need to live one day at a time. Originally developed for people recovering from alcoholism and other addictions, these books will also appeal to anyone interested in personal and spiritual growth.
In God’s Care guides readers in understanding and strengthening their connection with a Higher Power, however they choose to define that presence. With the inspiration and support unique to Hazelden meditation books, In God’s Care offers encouragement and guidance for “practicing the presence of God” in daily life.
In God’s Care guides readers in understanding and strengthening their connection with a Higher Power, however they choose to define that presence. With the inspiration and support unique to Hazelden meditation books, In God’s Care offers encouragement and guidance for “practicing the presence of God” in daily life.
Day by Day – Daily Meditations for Recovering Addicts 2nd Edition
Newly revised, this classic meditation book has brought an eloquent message about living one day at a time to more than a million recovering addicts. Its inspirational passages augment and reinforce AA principles about coping constructively with life’s daily problems, staying sober, and growing spiritually.
Food for Thought - Daily Meditation for Overeaters
The meditations in Food for Thought focus on our need for support, compassion, understanding, and acceptance of our compulsive eating. Each daily reading provides encouragement for turning to our Higher Power for comfort and addresses the steps and concerns that help us in our recovery. These meditations help recovering women and men begin to benefit from a physically, emotionally, and spiritually balanced life.
In God's Care - Daily Meditations on Spirituality in Recovery
The books in the Hazelden Meditation Series have guided millions as they search for the wisdom and understanding they need to live one day at a time. Originally developed for people recovering from alcoholism and other addictions, these books will also appeal to anyone interested in personal and spiritual growth.
In God’s Care guides readers in understanding and strengthening their connection with a Higher Power, however they choose to define that presence. With the inspiration and support unique to Hazelden meditation books, In God’s Care offers encouragement and guidance for “practicing the presence of God” in daily life.
In God’s Care guides readers in understanding and strengthening their connection with a Higher Power, however they choose to define that presence. With the inspiration and support unique to Hazelden meditation books, In God’s Care offers encouragement and guidance for “practicing the presence of God” in daily life.
A Day at a Time - Daily Reflections for Recovering People
Based on the spiritual foundation of Alcoholics Anonymous, these daily reflections and prayers offer inspiration, comfort, and hope to those of us recovering from addictions. A Day at a Time also draws upon the wisdom of the world’s greatest poets, scholars, and philosophers.
The 12 Step Prayer Book
The best-loved prayers used by 12-step group members are included in this pocket-sized book. Topics cover resentment, fear, gratitude, improving conscious contact, humility, and more.
The 12 Step Prayer Book - More 12 Step Prayers and Inspirational Readings
Here is everyday inspiration for the recovery journey. This second volume of Hazelden’s popular 12 Step Prayer Book brings the total number of prayers to 366 between the two volumes–a prayer for each day of the year. With words of wisdom and inspiration gleaned from Twelve Step meetings and adapted from common prayers and devotional readings, members of all Twelve Step fellowships will find abundant insight and gentle encouragement for their spiritual progress in this stirring collection.
Pocket Guide to The 12 Steps
A time-proven process of healing, The 12-Step method is a practical approach to overcoming addictions, codependency, and compulsions. These steps will help you:
Heal your relationships with others.
Master new skills to sustain a healthy lifestyle.
Restore joy and meaning to your life.
Overcome social isolation.
Learn to hear and be honest with yourself.
Build a clear sense of purpose.
Heal your relationships with others.
Master new skills to sustain a healthy lifestyle.
Restore joy and meaning to your life.
Overcome social isolation.
Learn to hear and be honest with yourself.
Build a clear sense of purpose.
Choices & Consequences
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Twelve Steps For Overeaters
The author of the popular Food for Thought takes a fresh, in-depth look at the Twelve Steps of Overeaters Anonymous. Each chapter carefully examines and interprets each of the individual Steps.
Addict in the Family
Witnessing the addiction of a family member or loved one is a heart-rending experience. But hope can prevail, as shown in this compelling new book. Here, the gripping stories of fathers, mothers, sons, and daughters of addicts offer important lessons on loving, detachment, intervention, and self care.
Beyond Codependency
You’re learning to let go, to live your life free of the grip of someone else’s problems. And yet you find you’ve just started on the long journey of recovery. Let Melody Beattie, author of the classic Codependent No More, help you along your way. A guided tour past the pitfalls of recovery, Beyond Codependency is dedicated to those struggling to master the art of self-care. It is a book about what to do once the pain has stopped and you’ve begun to suspect that you have a life to live. It is about what happens next.
In simple, straightforward terms, Beattie takes you into the territory beyond codependency, into the realm of recovery and relapse, family-of-origin work and relationships, surrender and spirituality. With personal stories, hard-won insights, and activities, her book teaches the lessons of dealing with shame, growing in self-esteem, overcoming deprivation, and getting past fatal attractions long enough to find relationships that work.
In simple, straightforward terms, Beattie takes you into the territory beyond codependency, into the realm of recovery and relapse, family-of-origin work and relationships, surrender and spirituality. With personal stories, hard-won insights, and activities, her book teaches the lessons of dealing with shame, growing in self-esteem, overcoming deprivation, and getting past fatal attractions long enough to find relationships that work.
The New Codependency
In Codependent No More, Melody Beattie introduced the world to the term codependency. Now a modern classic, this book established Beattie as a pioneer in self-help literature and endeared her to millions of readers who longed for healthier relationships. Twenty-five years later concepts such as self-care and setting boundaries have become entrenched in mainstream culture. Now Beattie has written a followup volume, The New Codependency, which clears up misconceptions about codependency, identifies how codependent behavior has changed, and provides a new generation with a road map to wellness.
The question remains: What is and what is not codependency? Beattie here reminds us that much of codependency is normal behavior. It’s about crossing lines. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. Feeling resentment after giving is not the same as heartfelt generosity. Narcissism and self-love, enabling and nurturing, and controlling and setting boundaries are not interchangeable terms. In The New Codependency, Beattie explores these differences, effectively invoking her own inspiring story and those of others, to empower us to step out of the victim role forever. Codependency, she shows, is not an illness but rather a series of behaviors that once broken down and analyzed can be successfully combated.
The question remains: What is and what is not codependency? Beattie here reminds us that much of codependency is normal behavior. It’s about crossing lines. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. Feeling resentment after giving is not the same as heartfelt generosity. Narcissism and self-love, enabling and nurturing, and controlling and setting boundaries are not interchangeable terms. In The New Codependency, Beattie explores these differences, effectively invoking her own inspiring story and those of others, to empower us to step out of the victim role forever. Codependency, she shows, is not an illness but rather a series of behaviors that once broken down and analyzed can be successfully combated.
Each section offers an overview of and a series of activities pertaining to a particular behavior — caretaking, controlling, manipulation, denial, repression, etc. — enabling us to personalize our own step-bystep guide to wellness. These sections, in conjunction with a series of tests allowing us to assess the level of our codependent behavior, demonstrate that while it may not seem possible now, we have the power to take care of ourselves, no matter what we are experiencing.
Codependents' Guide To The Twelve Steps
Millions identified with Melody Beattie in Codependent No More and gained inspiration from her in Beyond Codependency. Now she’s back to help you discover how recovery programs work and to help you find the right one for you. Interpreting the famous Alcoholics Anonymous Twelve Steps specifically for codependent issues for the very first time, this groundbreaking book combines Melody’s expertise with the experience of other people to:
• Explain each step and how you can apply it to your particular issues
• Offer specific exercises and activities to use both in group settings and on your own
• Provide a directory of the wide range of Twelve Step programs — including Al-Anon, Codependents Anonymous, Codependents of Sex Addicts, Adult Children of Alcoholics, and more
The uniquely warm and compassionate voice of Melody Beattie will inspire you to turn your life around — one step at a time
• Explain each step and how you can apply it to your particular issues
• Offer specific exercises and activities to use both in group settings and on your own
• Provide a directory of the wide range of Twelve Step programs — including Al-Anon, Codependents Anonymous, Codependents of Sex Addicts, Adult Children of Alcoholics, and more
The uniquely warm and compassionate voice of Melody Beattie will inspire you to turn your life around — one step at a time
Resilience, Discovering a New Strength at Times of Stress
Make Stress Your Ally in the Pursuit of Happiness and Personal Fulfillment
There’s no escaping stress. It appears on our doorstep uninvited in the shattering forms of death, divorce, or job loss. Stress even comes in the pleasant experiences of promotion, marriage, or a long-held wish fulfilled. So why do some people come out of a crisis feeling better than ever, and others never seem to bounce back?
There’s no escaping stress. It appears on our doorstep uninvited in the shattering forms of death, divorce, or job loss. Stress even comes in the pleasant experiences of promotion, marriage, or a long-held wish fulfilled. So why do some people come out of a crisis feeling better than ever, and others never seem to bounce back?
With a new chapter on Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and the latest research on “nerve cell plasticity,” this completely revised edition of Resilience takes the anxiety out of hard times. Drawing on more than thirty years of case studies from his own psychiatric practice, Dr. Flach reveals the remarkable antidote to the destructive qualities of stress-physical, mental, and emotional resilience.
The Cat at the Door - And Other Stories To Live By
Affirmations for Children. By Anne D. Mather and Louise B. Weldon
12 Step Story Booklet
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Alcohol and Substance Abuse
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Help Kids Say No to Drugs and Drinking - A Practical Prevention Guide for Parents
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Kids Power - Healing Games for Children of Alcoholics
In our programs young children of alcohol and drug addicted parents can play their way to understanding and health. Specially designed games and activities cover the following areas of critical importance; feelings, the disease of chemical dependency, family, defenses, problem solving and self-esteem. Each of these areas is represented in this book by a number of games. Most are non-competitive and stress cooperation, trust and teamwork in an atmosphere where everyone wins. Participation in these games fosters bonding, support, laughter and recovery. Games help kids step back and look at situations with safety. They can use characters, posters and other means to express things they wouldn’t feel safe expressing any other way. We have “kid-tested” all of these games and activities with young children (ages 6 to 12) of alcoholics and addicts in a variety of settings including weekly educational/support groups, retreats, camps and workshops. We have been using some of these games for almost twenty years. Some work well with even younger children, and many are effective with adolescents and adults. For each game the appropriate age group is indicated. Each writeup continues with description, example, affirmations and the materials required.
How to Say No and Keep Your Friends - Peer Pressure Reversal for Teens and Preteens
This practical book for teens and preteens is filled with helpful suggestions, true stories, lively cartoons, and proven effective skills for dealing with all kinds of negative peer pressure. All kids face difficult decisions at some point about things like cheating, fighting, skipping school, stealing, drugs, lying to parents, etc. Sometimes it’s hard to just say “no” when their friends are saying “Everybody does it. We won’t get caught.”
New Edition Includes:
13 hard-hitting, true stories of teens who failed to manage negative peer pressure which resulted in loss of privileges, jail, and even death.
A new message to kids: “Don’t just fit in, stand out!” which empowers them to be independent thinkers.
125 sure-fire refusal lines to use at a moment’s notice to handle all kinds of peer pressure.
10 tips to help teens encourage their friends to be drug-free.
New Edition Includes:
13 hard-hitting, true stories of teens who failed to manage negative peer pressure which resulted in loss of privileges, jail, and even death.
A new message to kids: “Don’t just fit in, stand out!” which empowers them to be independent thinkers.
125 sure-fire refusal lines to use at a moment’s notice to handle all kinds of peer pressure.
10 tips to help teens encourage their friends to be drug-free.
Addiction & Grace
Addiction and Grace offers an inspiring and hope–filled vision for those who desire to explore the mystery of who and what they really are. May examines the “processes of attachment” that lead to addiction and describes the relationship between addiction and spiritual awareness. He also details the various addictions from which we can suffer, not only to substances like alcohol and drugs, but to work, sex, performance, responsibility, and intimacy.
Drawing on his experience as a psychiatrist working with the chemically dependent, May emphasizes that addiction represents an attempt to assert complete control over our lives. Addiction and Grace is a compassionate and wise treatment of a topic of major concern in these most addictive of times, one that can provide a critical yet hopeful guide to a place of freedom based on contemplative spirituality.
A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps for People in the Process of Recovery
Carnes offers us exercises, inventories, and guided reflections for those of us facing the daily challenges of attaining or maintaining an addiction-free lifestyle.
This revised edition of A Gentle Path Through The Twelve Steps is a treasure chest, a rich and powerful resource for anyone working a twelve-step program. Carnes is a gifted teacher and leader in the addiction recovery field.
This revised edition of A Gentle Path Through The Twelve Steps is a treasure chest, a rich and powerful resource for anyone working a twelve-step program. Carnes is a gifted teacher and leader in the addiction recovery field.
The Alcoholic Family
This pathbreaking book paints a radical new picture of alcoholism, offering powerful evidence that most chronic alcoholics live out their lives in intact, relatively quiet family environments. The authors show, however, that living in an alcoholic family—in which alcoholism is the central theme around which family life is organized—has profound effects on family members both drinkers and nondrinkers.
Substance Abuse in Adolescents and Young Adults
For adolescents who are addicted to drugs and alcohol the traditional substance abuse programmes are simply not enough. This book unites the principles of developmental psychology and concepts of addiction recovery in an approach to diagnosing and treating young substance abusers.
Stage II Recovery - Life Beyond Addiction
Sustained abstinence from an addiction is only the first stage of recovery; real recovery begins with Stage II–the rebuilding of the life that was saved in Stage I.
Sitting in the Bay Window - A Book for Parents of Young Alcoholics
By Jack Mumey
Another Chance - Hope and Health for the Alcoholic Family
This edition, winner of a Marty Mann Award as an outstanding contribution on alcoholism communications, updates and expands the original classic on how the alcoholic family system works.
One Day At a Time - Alateen
A collection of positive daily sharings written by Alateen members around the world
Here are two websites where you may purchase books on addictions and alcoholism:
My 12 Step Store
Hazelden Addiction Treatment
TAPES
Bradshaw on Family Secrets
6 hour intensive PBS Workshop on dvd
Fr. Leo Booth Creating Healthy Relationships
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